9 Causes of a Strained and Disconnected Relationship


9 Reasons Couples Get Disconnected & How to Turn Things Around

Relationships, even the strongest ones, can sometimes feel strained or distant. Disconnection is a common experience for couples, especially in long-term relationships or marriages, where familiarity meets the complexities of daily life. Feeling disconnected doesn’t always mean the relationship is broken, but it is a sign that attention, effort, and reflection are needed to restore closeness.

If you’ve been wondering why things feel “off” between you and your partner, you’re not alone. Here are nine common reasons couples feel disconnected, along with actionable steps to help both of you feel closer and more in sync.


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