đź’” Stop Destructive Habits that Harm Relationships


Are These Habits Harming Your Relationship?

Destructive habits can erode trust, hinder communication, and compromise emotional safety in a relationship. Here are some common destructive patterns to watch for:

  • Constant Criticism: Repeatedly pointing out your partner’s flaws can foster feelings of inadequacy and resentment.
  • Stonewalling: Withdrawing emotionally or refusing to engage during conflicts can lead to unresolved issues and alienation.
  • Jealousy and Possessiveness: Excessive jealousy may undermine trust and create a controlling dynamic, which can harm both partners.
  • Gaslighting: This manipulative behavior causes one partner to doubt their reality, leading to confusion and self-doubt.
  • Blaming: Consistently shifting responsibility onto the other person prevents accountability and resolution.
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How to Accept Where You Are and Overcome Life’s Challenges


Have you ever caught yourself wondering why your life doesn’t look the way you imagined it would by now? Maybe you’re thinking about where you “should” be with your relationships, career, or personal goals—and it just doesn’t seem to line up. If you sometimes feel out of sync while it seems like everyone else is moving ahead, you’re not the only one. Lots of us wrestle quietly with these thoughts, no matter our background or story. These feelings are part of being human and don’t take away from your worth in any way—and you truly don’t have to face them alone.


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Maplewood Counseling offers in-person and virtual Telehealth sessions in and around Maplewood as well as remotely to any couple or individual in any location in New Jersey.

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Our Compassionate Team

Alayne Brady Jacobs LSW

Therapist for Couples & Individuals

Natatcha Delva LSW

Therapist for Couples & Individuals

Robert Jenkins LCSW

Therapist for Couples, Families & Individuals

Daphne Berkovits, LMFT

Therapist for Couples, Families & Individuals

Ongeri Aminga, LSW (May 2026)

Therapist for Couples & Individuals

Sarah Newman, LSW

Therapist for Couples & Individuals

Debra Feinberg, LCSW

Therapist for Couples & Individuals

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